I’m not a salesperson.
Updated: May 19, 2020
I used to say that. All. The. Time.
Until I realized it was entirely untrue. EVERYBODY in this world is selling something. They’re just not calling it sales; but if we’re honest with ourselves, that’s exactly what it is. You sell yourself in a job interview. You sell your hopes and dreams for comfort and certainty. Your time for a paycheck. Your body to the partner you hope to obtain. There may not be an actual exchange of money in most of these transactions, but they’re sales just the same.
When you become a business owner, you quickly learn about a term called “service exchange,” which is when two different entities trade what they have to offer with one another. This exchange, though not directly involving a currency exchange, still holds great value. Our lives are a sequence of “service exchanges.” We offer what we have in hopes of receiving something of like value from another person or entity.
This can be highly beneficial, but there’s also a great danger in it because we as humans have a general proclivity to undervalue ourselves. This then puts everything we value at risk. It’s the reason we stay in relationships with partners that don’t value us. In jobs that never allow us to explore or realize our full potential. In the towns where we grew up with no real desire or motivation to leave. These things inhibit us and keep us from growing and stepping into our true potential.
So how do we avoid falling into this common trap? Constant evaluation of self and others. Don’t be afraid to be truly honest with yourself and the ones you care about the most. This is integral. If you can’t be honest with the people that are supposed to care about you, they may be part of the problem. It’s not a pleasant thing to think about. It’s even less pleasant to do what’s needed if and when you realize a relationship is unhealthy and inhibitive, but it’s a necessary part of life. Don’t hold yourself back and don’t allow others to hold you back by making you feel like you don’t deserve good things.
Get to know yourself. Embrace all of it, even the ugly parts. Step forward into the life you deserve. Never forget that you are so incredibly valuable. Know your worth.